I met this therapist on Tuesday. It was ____ too many words to actually be able to choose just one.
She said that in therapy you have to look back at all that happened to you and revisit it all.
I completely disagree. I think that there are so many people who think that in order to go forwards you have to go back. That you have to revisit everything that happened. And I think they’re wrong.
If you ask me, life is about moving forwards. Not back. Living with the reality. Living in the present.
I’ve always felt that therapy is about taking where you are and going from there. That revisiting what was isn’t going to give you the tools or skills you didn’t have then. Revisiting the past won’t change it. It’ll just bring you back there. Rather than to the present. You live, I live, we live, in the present, in reality. Why go back there? I think there’s a line though, because sometimes we have to revisit it. To process it. To accept and acknowledge what was. To be okay with it. To forgive. To let go. To move on. Which means that when you remember something, feel what you want to. Or for example, when I was reminded of my sister when I was 9, I told my friends. I journaled about it a lot. I wrote to the 9 year old E. Not that I’ve really forgiven everyone or let it be. But one day I will. That’s not what therapy is for though. Therapy is about moving forward. That’s what I think anyways.
What do you think?
Tired and confused and came across lots of cool quotes.
Random, mixing posts up.
So long as there’s life, there’s hope.