I have some questions for this therapist I met last week (and 2 weeks ago). Someone actually linked in a random post on SF a video on youtube and I’ve liked some of the videos on the channel. You can check it out here. Thinking of it coz’ I’ve questions for this therapist and people have questions for a therapist lots of which may be answered there. I can’t think of anything other than this. If you think I’ve missed anything out than I can always edit this post!
Questions I have for this therapist
- How does she see therapy sessions mapping out? Both in general and how she thinks it’d work with me.
- I’m asking the above because she said she works primarily with TA (transactional analysis), the first I’d heard of it was listening to videos with my mum for her counselling course. The second when she said she’s a TA therapist. I personally never thought it makes much difference what modality a therapist is trained in so long as you can work well with them. But, and it’s a big but, one of the main things I want from therapy is practical skills and tools. I never got that with AH (ex therapist). But where I was when I started with AH is very different to now. Am I going to get what I want?
- Similar to the above, she mentioned about looking back at everything that happened. I want to know what she meant by that. What I understood from her is that therapy is about looking and going through every negative experience that happened. Which I know some people think and it isn’t a view I hold of. At all. I don’t know if that’s her view or not. I want to know what her view is. My view is that therapy is about moving forwards. There are often things that have happened that are going to block you from moving forwards. So therapy is about looking where you want to go, working through a, what tools you need to get there and b, working through anything that is stopping you from getting there (be it beliefs, thoughts, or not having processed anything that has ever happened to you). I want to know what her view is. And yeah, I know that all these points are kinda all one and the same it’s just easier to put it down like this.
- And, what is her supervision like. How did she choose her supervisor (just curiosity that point).
- And edit – this is really an addition to the previous point. I think working through the past is a part of what would come up in therapy, but not in and of itself what therapy is about. I think I wrote that already and lost the words I had floating about when I wasn’t online.
Onto what else I want to know
- What does putting her hand over her heart give to her?
The rest of the questions I have for her are on what she’s said to me. I had a long list and can’t remember most of them now!
- What does a room say about a person?
- What does my room say to her about me?
- Why was she surprised that I have pictures of my room on my phone?
- What did she mean when she said she saw something fragile? As is what did she see that made her think that and use that word.
- Why did she ask me the first time we met if I ever disassociate? I’m assuming it’s not something she asks every person she meets.
- Why does she think working with me would be a challenge?
- What other blog posts did she read? Does she know what my blog is really about?
Something she said I want her to elaborate on (I couldn’t find anything even though I had Sir Google’s faithful – or in this case not so – help). That people who purge often feel constriction.
I’m sure I’ll think of a lot else to add before Tuesday.
Oh yeah, I want to know if she’s ever read the book The Journey. And what her views are on the world – how she thinks the world came to be, whether she believes in a higher power and why (no difference what she believes so long as there’s a valid why. I do. Because the world is proven to be finite by the fact it’s expanding outwards constantly lesser – so isn’t going to cave in on itself – and the big bang creating time and space which means there has to be an inifinty. Not that I understand what I’m saying!).